My Minnesota engineer had his own contract engineering business. He was very busy with the biggest project he had ever taken on when we first started chatting. He had communicated with a few other women on the internet in the past but none of those communications ever amounted too much. He had been married twice before and had gotten badly burned. He ended up having to raise, virtually alone, his first two children by himself, having all but been deserted by their mother. The second marriage was even shorter and worse. When we first met he had been single for more than twenty years and his three children were already grown. He had pretty much given up on the idea of ever finding someone that he felt he could trust. Then one day, a few months before our first contact, the Lord spoke to him and told him that He had someone for him. This was not a unique or unusual experience for my future husband, he had experienced this many times before.
His uncle had married an Asian woman many years before and had a wonderful marriage with two beautiful children. He decided to check out the dating sites online that catered to women from the far east. He was amazed to find out the large number of women listed from the Philippines who were looking for a strong Christian man from the US regardless of age. His biggest problem was trying to pare down the number to a manageable amount and choose the one he wanted to communicate with. He had neither the desire nor time to communicate with many, he was only looking for just that special one.
The dating website that he had joined had search parameters which included age, religion, education and profession. After having been on the website for a couple of months, it occurred to him that it would be a great thing if he could find a potential spouse who was also an engineer and could help him in his business. When he started searching for women with engineering backgrounds and education, his list of potential contacts was narrowed greatly. He sent out a couple of emails to a few of the women engineers but nothing promising really came back.
It was then that he specified that the website began sending him profiles of any new engineers that signed up. It was only a few days later that he received my profile and decided to respond. Though I was younger and shorter (I’m 4′10 and he’s 6′4) than what he had listed as search parameters prior, when deciding to search for engineers he also broadened his parameters that would have previously filtered me out. Somehow, almost miraculously, through the tightest of time frames and broadest of choices we had somehow found each other.