I immediately started preparing for the wedding. I just wanted to have a very simple ceremony. I was busy in the midst of making preparations when a friend of mine who was also getting married began telling me about her plans. She had hired a disc jockey and wedding coordinator to help her prepare for the big day. When these two guys heard that I was getting married they decided to come and talk to me. They said that they would help me out in my wedding preparation free of charge because I was a friend. Although I considered them to be just acquaintances, the offer of free help sounded too good to pass up.
These two guys were now in the picture of my wedding plan. My fiance had sent me more than enough to cover the original cost estimate but once these guys got involved the tab started rising quickly. The first thing they did was tell me that I needed a new wedding dress and bridesmaids dresses because they felt that what I had already purchased was unsuitable. They moved the wedding reception from an air conditioned indoor site to a more expensive outdoor venue. I gave in to their suggestions even though I was already happy with my simple wedding plans. As a matter of fact, I made a down payment for the new dress before talking to my fiance about the changes. Everything was suddenly getting more expensive and I soon ran out of money to cover the new wedding arrangements.
When I talked to my fiance about it he got upset. He asked me why I needed to change everything when as far as he was concern everything that I had done previously was just fine. He was right, the problem was I got carried away by the wedding coordinator’s suggestions. We had both agreed that all we wanted was a simple ceremony presided over by my father who is also a minister and a small group of family and friends.
It was the first time that our relationship had experience any tension. I broke down crying over the phone apologizing to him. But he wasn’t really mad at me. He told me he wanted to talk to the wedding coordinator directly so I handed the phone to him. Unbeknown to me, my fiance told the wedding coordinator that he had better get his act together or get out of the picture altogether because if he caused any more upset between me and my fiance that my fiance would deal with him when he got there. From that point on, things went a lot smoother, at least on my side of the pacific.